The one who cares the least controls the relationship.
This is beyond the theory and should be considered as a law of relationship physics.
Chemical reactions in humans are responsible for this stuff and to display an uncaring attitude and disdain for relationships will score, sometimes.
Sorry , but humans are flawed as a species and so cannot be happy for long.
Just not possible. Control is an illusion
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I found this in my drafts and was surprised and perturbed by it, did I write this?
I had and have no recollection of these ideas being part of my repository of thoughts.
Re-reading for the 5th time
I can say that this wasn't me, perhaps I had planned to dispute these ideas...???
But the evidence of these ideas in actuality just walked out the door in the form of my 16yr old client
who expressed in her session today about how she firmly believed that "she who cares less wins" (reminded me of that awful show who dares wins)
I listened and didn't comment, letting her vent is good I reasoned with myself, but part of me the perturbing part, agreed with her. caring less means getting hurt less
working on this premise one will tend to invest less of one's self emotionally to avoid hurt
and investing oneself less will almost definitely lead one's relationship to become less
and then hurt will follow anyway?
or will it be reduced because one didn't care enough to begin with??
Absence of less hurt will reinforce one's care-less attitude
and a vicious circle has begun....
love life and learning all rolled into this chain of thought
Science is just a reductionist cop out